Collaborative Divorce: Revolutionizing the Way Divorces Are Handled

A new paradigm is needed for the way family law ishandle future issues."
practiced in Michigan, and a new method calledWorking with a team of caring specialists that includes
Collaborative Divorce is leading the way.two lawyers, two coaches, a financial consultant, and a
Divorce is a life-changing event. A select group ofchild specialist (if necessary), you and your spouse
attorneys can now offer a better way to end afocus on building a consensus that addresses the
marriage through specialized advanced training inneeds of everyone who will be directly affected by
Collaborative Divorce. This groundbreaking methodthe divorce.Every divorce involves a complex
revolutionizes the way couples divorce. It addressesintertwining of emotional, financial and legal issues that
your legal, financial, and emotional needs and achievesno single professional has the range of skills to
the best family arrangement possible. Families at waraddress comprehensively. When you have the right
produce only losers and no winners. This exciting newteam member available to help solve the problem, it
process empowers you - not lawyers or a judge - tousually gets solved more quickly and economically and
shape the outcome of your divorce.at a higher level of sophistication. You're less likely to
The key benefits of Collaborative Divorce are that it isreturn again and again to court to rehash problems
non-adversarial; solutions can be tailor-made andthat weren't really resolved in the first place. That's
flexible; clients have control of the pace; expertswhy -- paradoxically -- a team generally costs a
(accountants, financial advisers, therapists orcouple less, not more. "Through divorce coaching, I
counselors) can be brought in and work with thehave seen dramatic improvement in the way couples
couples; and privacy is preserved.communicate - even in the most contentious cases"
"I believe that Collaborative Divorce is the most excitingstates Dr. Nancy Fishman, a Birmingham Mental Health
development in family law in many, many years. ClientsSpecialist. "For example, if one of you is frightened or
love it; they regard the process as direct, clear andangry, instead of going to the divorce lawyer, you'll
amicable while avoiding the expenses and latentspend a few sessions in coaching and then come
aggression of the court process." Says Lori D. Becker,back to the legal negotiating table much better
Bloomfield Hills Divorce Attorney and Mediator.equipped to think clearly and negotiate for long-term
Each spouse retains their own specially trainedlasting resolution. You spend only what is needed for
collaborative lawyer, if they wish to achieve the manythe right kind of constructive help to solve the problem.
benefits of collaborative divorce. Traditional lawyers, noIt can be instrumental in keeping the legal fees from
matter how friendly or cooperative, lack the specialescalating."
skills and training those collaborative lawyers canPeople need to be educated about conflict -
provide.specifically, avoiding it when appropriate, using the
Becker is one of the few Michigan divorce attorneysenergy in a more constructive way, and saving the
trained in Collaborative Divorce, in which both spouses'courtroom only for truly immovable, conflicted cases.
divorce attorneys negotiate a settlement outside ofCollaborative Divorce specialists create long-term
court - with a written agreement not to litigate.financial and parenting plans that work by enabling their
"It's a healthier way to help families," says Becker. "clients to understand and address their children's needs
Collaborative Divorce is a holistic approach to familywhile conserving emotional and financial resources, and
law. Attorneys trained in this method are highly skilledby helping clients play an active role in designing their
not only in family law, but in effective communication,lives after divorce. Cutting corners in how you meet
cooperative negotiation, and creative problem-solving.the challenges of divorce may be the most expensive
With a Collaborative Divorce, you get a plan on how tothing you can do.