| Anyone who decides to go into divorce knows how | | | | • The Experience. Ask the person how long he or |
| uncomfortable the situation could be. It is easier to go | | | | she has been a divorce mediator and how many |
| through the whole process with the help of divorce | | | | divorce has he or she mediated |
| mediators to do settlements and to take care of | | | | • References. The mediator must be able to give |
| important matters regarding the divorce. When | | | | names of people like lawyers, clergy and therapists |
| choosing a divorce mediator, make sure that the | | | | who can attest that he or she has been a mediator |
| person is qualified, and second, that you will have a | | | | for a certain period of time. |
| good working relationship with the person. You can | | | | • The style. Ask the divorce mediator about his or |
| start scouring the yellow pages or the internet for | | | | her approaches during the mediation. Each divorce |
| divorce mediators available in your area. | | | | mediator has his or her own style. Choose the person |
| You can also ask some friends to refer you to one. | | | | you think can offer the best mediation procedure for |
| Check out your county attorney’s office if possible; | | | | you. |
| some county attorney offices do have list of best | | | | • Authority. Is the divorce mediator considered one |
| lawyers in their county that they can refer to county | | | | of the best divorce mediators in the area? Has he or |
| residents if needed. Don’t settle for whoever | | | | she mediated a divorce in the past successfully? |
| comes along; use all the avenues available to you, that | | | | • Chemistry. You cannot go on being mediated by |
| way you should be able to find the best lawyer who | | | | a person you do not like. Make sure you feel good |
| would be fair and neutral to mediate your divorce. | | | | about the divorce mediator you are going to choose. |
| There are several factors that you may consider in | | | | Divorce mediators will work hand in hand with you to |
| choosing divorce mediators. | | | | make your divorce a little lighter to take. Divorce is |
| • The Training. Anyone can just call himself or | | | | never a joyful experience. But if you end up not liking |
| herself a divorce mediator. It is important to inquire | | | | the divorce mediator/s you chose, you can change |
| about the person’s training. | | | | anytime you want. |