Divorce--Should I Or Shouldn't I? Another Glance At Indecision

The ramifications of divorce are taking on evenfor the first time in his life.
greater significance as we near 2010. The state of theFollowing further meetings, with both me and other
economy, home foreclosures, unemployment, and thegroup members, Hank began to gradually realize that
issue of health care for all, represent a myriad ofhis confusion, despair, and struggle with his depression
factors that influence the decision to keep awere more closely related to the realization that he
marital relationship intact, regardless of the mutualhad no idea of the meaning of his life that went
suffering, or the decision to "call it quits".beyond a marital relationship. He began to feel that he
Though not a participant in one of my "decision"needed to explore other elements in his life such as his
workshops, at first, Hank sought assistance from mespiritual beliefs, personal passions related to unfulfilled
regarding the dilemma he was battling regarding hisgoals that he had disregarded, and the quest for
marriage. Married for twenty years, he came to thenewer adventures.
realization that at age fifty he was bored with his wife,Interestingly, his spouse, we learned, was on her
his marriage, and life in general. While both he and hisrenewed journey which unsurprisingly began to bring
wife were receiving couples counseling from anotherthem closer. We continued to focus on his personal
therapist, he decided to attend one of my weeklyissues for the next several months when he decided it
workshops. His indecisiveness regarding the outcomewas time for him to move on and concentrate on his
of his marriage, revealed more than the growingmarital relationship and discovering "who I am".
mismatch of their relationship, as other group membersCan any of you identify with some of the elements
agreed that Hank's "angst" was more a matter of thewhich Hank began to recognize, and perhaps continue
realization that he was beginning to face his mortalityyour own journey?