| When you attend a couple's 50th wedding anniversary, | | | | differences and biases. Try and look at your |
| you tend to look at them with awe. How does a | | | | relationship as one of equals. This means that each |
| couple live together for that long and look so happy | | | | one is entitled to an opinion and the right to justify or |
| about it. Well the answer is simply this – they may | | | | defend that opinion. Keep the field open in terms of not |
| not always have been happy, but they have tried to | | | | agreeing with your spouse. But at the same time, |
| resolve their problems and make a success of their | | | | agree not let those differences affect your relationship. |
| marriage. A divorce has become a common solution | | | | If you know your spouse is giving up something to |
| to marital problems. While some marriages are beyond | | | | accommodate you, then try and work at making up |
| saving, most can be resolved with a little patience. | | | | for it in a different way. This shows you care and also |
| Some of these solutions may sound hackneyed to | | | | acknowledges that you understand the sacrifice that is |
| you but if you work at them, they are bound to help | | | | being made for you. It is human nature to want such |
| stop a divorce. For starters communication, try and | | | | acknowledgement even if they don't openly ask for it. |
| amicably reach an agreement that you will work | | | | In order to prevent a divorce and make a marriage |
| towards communicating with each other positively. Be | | | | work, both partners have to be ready for change. This |
| receptive to the other person's opinion and try and | | | | change can be facilitated by a counselor or can be |
| view things from their perspective. This however does | | | | something that has been mutually worked upon and |
| not mean that you be submissive to any opinion. | | | | agreed by both. Change is a difficult thing to accept. It |
| Communication is a two-way process. There is a bit | | | | alters the status quo that a couple has been living in. |
| of give and take. While you may not really be in the | | | | While adjusting to the idea can be difficult, it will make |
| mood of giving, if it helps save a marriage you should | | | | a difference in the long run. Stopping a divorce is not |
| try and keep an open mind. | | | | an easy task but with an open mind and a willingness |
| Saving a marriage is also about putting away past | | | | to work at things, it can be achieved. |