| The choice between accepting the change or to keep | | | | overnight. |
| throwing tantrums at it, decides how you fare in life, in | | | | For those of you, who fall in the above mentioned |
| the aftermath of your divorce. There are two sides to | | | | category, it is a time of constant introspection, for the |
| this coin of change, the good and the not-so-good. | | | | sense of loss. Handholding hastens the healing. |
| Let us see the not-so-good side of it, first. | | | | Now for the better side of this coin, known as |
| - However ebullient you may be, despite the divorce, | | | | ‘change’: |
| the loneliness of your living space and mental thoughts, | | | | - Why do most people seek or initiate divorce at a |
| sometimes, do hit home, slightly hard. However devilish | | | | great expense of time and money? Well, a |
| your partner may have been, there are those rare | | | | predominant answer for this, it seems, is the promise |
| shared stolen moments of joy, which keep cropping | | | | of a newfound personal freedom that is yours for the |
| up, now and then. | | | | keeping. No intrusions from a spouse! In those cases |
| - Even the most hardhearted of partners do need a | | | | of divorce, where the personal liberty of the harassed |
| pillar to lean on, in their moments of doubt or | | | | spouse has suffered much, at the hands of the |
| unsteadiness. When this pillar or the voice of reasoning | | | | tormentor, this change wrought by welcome divorce, is |
| is no longer around, the change can make you want to | | | | a much-needed release into the joy of freedom. |
| withdraw into your own protective shell and abhor any | | | | - Then, there are also many cases of divorce where |
| interaction with the rest of the world. | | | | either spouse or both are fed up of the tedium caused |
| - Two pairs of hands or two heads are better than | | | | by the novelty of their marriage wearing thin. In such |
| one. So is the case with incomes and assets. Most of | | | | cases, usually, either partner feels cramped by the |
| the time, marital splits also tend to split up the | | | | proximity of actions, thought and presence of the |
| household income and the assets (on few occasions, it | | | | other. They just want to get out of this perceptibly |
| is the monetary resources like incomes, savings and | | | | stifling relationship. |
| assets that cause the divorce!). High incomes | | | | - For some, it was an escape from an unattractive |
| necessarily do not guarantee a comfortable existence | | | | partner (physically and mentally) and provided the |
| in the modern world because of the runaway prices | | | | learning experience, to renew again their search for |
| and the crass commercialization in every facet of life. | | | | the perfect partner or a good relationship this time |
| - Splitting the property is a most unwelcome change, | | | | around, though a little bit wary and wiser. |
| as a consequence of the divorce, because you gain | | | | For those of you who fit this description, it’s time to |
| your personal freedom at the cost of your financial | | | | move on to newer pastures. |
| comfort! Balancing your finances, post–divorce | | | | Life could change for the better or for the worse, after |
| appears to be more daunting than balancing your | | | | your divorce. Divorce is not the means to achieve |
| marriage. | | | | licentiousness under the garb of personal freedom. |
| - You could not get along with your spouse, but what | | | | Neither is divorce the scriptwriter of further sorrowful |
| about the child(ren)? Staying at home and lovingly | | | | sequences in your life. |
| watching the child grow, merrily witnessing the child's | | | | Divorce gives you an opening to rekindle the pursuit of |
| antics, coming home to the unalloyed affection | | | | those long-cherished desires. A burning ambition, an |
| bestowed on you, the fun and frolic of their playful | | | | interesting hobby etc. provide the much needed |
| ways -- the absence of all these leaves a deep | | | | positive impetus to the changes you undergo, after a |
| unspeakable ache. Their questioning look about the | | | | divorce. You can learn to embrace life by surfing the |
| missing parent is hard to explain or answer. | | | | waves of change or you could sulk in a forgotten |
| - Your attachment to your child(ren) can leave a | | | | corner and watch the world go by. You decide. |
| bleeding void in your heart. Your child(ren) can change | | | | |