Mediation And Family Law

By utilizing some form of collaborative law in family lawmanner.  I use the term good faith because I have
matters, the parties maintain control over thefound that in a family law situation, one party generally
outcome.  After all, a settlement can only be reachedtends to be more aggressive than the other.  I have
by agreement among the parties.  If the parties arealso noticed that the more aggressive party tends to
unable to reach an agreement on each and everybe the one pushing the idea of mediation and that the
issue at some point, they will then be forced to litigateparties participate in mediation without legal counsel.  It
the unresolved issues in court.is important to note that a mediator cannot represent
Mediation has been used by the Los Angeles Superiorthe interests of any particular party.  In fact, the
Court as a means of resolving child custody disputesmediator's job is to assist in resolving the legal
since its inception in 1955.  If the parties are involved indispute.  If the parties are not represented by
a custody dispute, mediation is required. In fact, a courtseparate counsel and one party is more aggressive in
will not make orders related to custody unless thethe mediation, he/she may be able to put into effect a
parties have attempted to resolve their custodymediation settlement that is unfair to the other party
dispute through mediation.  Court employees trained inthrough intimidation or just by "steam rolling over" the
resolving such disputes work with the parents in anweaker party.  Unfortunately, once the agreement is
effort to reach a custody agreement.  This form ofsigned, it is almost impossible to set aside.  While such
mediation is known as Conciliation Court.  Attorneysa case may be resolved through mediation, if the
are not permitted to participate in this process and theagreement is unfair to the weaker party, I am not sure
"mediators" advise the parties that they have thethat I would consider the mediation to have been a
opportunity to reject any agreement entered into withinsuccess.
10 days or the morning before the Court hearing,Often times, the parties participate in mediation without
whichever occurs first.  What the "mediators" andlegal counsel, but the mediator recommends that each
many attorneys fail to explain to the parties is that ifparty go over agreements reached with separate
they timely reject the Conciliation Court Agreement,counsel before signing the agreements.  While in
the judge will often inquire as to the reasons for thetheory this is a means of protecting the weaker party,
rejection of that agreement.  Unless the rejection isthe problem is that both parties are aware of the
based upon a significant incident that occurred sinceagreement that each was willing to make.  If material
entering into the agreement, many judges will make achanges are requested after consulting with attorneys,
custody order that basically reinstates the terms of theit is often difficult or impossible to make those changes
original agreement, regardless of the rejection.because of the terms that were preliminarily agreed to
Many of the Los Angeles County courthouses utilizeby the parties, as mentioned above.
attorney mediators for the family law matters.  FamilyAs a result, I believe that the "safest" form of
law attorneys are asked to volunteer their time at amediation is where each party is represented by
particular courthouse and are sent cases which thecounsel throughout the process.  Obviously, this is
judge or commissioner believes are appropriate foroften not the case.  I do not mean to convey that
mediation.  As an example, I must point out that theremediation cannot be effective unless each party is
are three family law courtrooms in the Van Nuysrepresented by counsel.  However, the parties should
Courthouse, and that there are typically at least 20exercise caution when mediating without separate
matters set for hearing in each of those courtroomscounsel because of the risks involved.
on any given morning.  However, it is rare for moreIf used effectively, a mediated resolution allows the
than a three to five cases to be sent down toparties to heal much sooner from their emotional
mediation at any given day.  The reason that so fewwounds caused by the dissolution of their relationship. 
cases are sent to the mediator is that the judges andMediation also enables the parties to delve into the
commissioners do not believe that every case isunderlying reasons they desire certain results and
appropriate for mediation.thereby allows for more creative resolutions that might
I have been volunteering as an attorney mediator on aaccomplish those needs through means that are more
rotating basis at the Van Nuys Courthouse sincepalatable to the other party.  However, it is a
January of 2008.  I have found that program to be amisconception that mediation is always a less costly
very effective means with which to resolve such legalform of dispute resolution. It certainly has its benefits, if
disputes.  To date, I have settled a significantused effectively. However, if the primary reason for
percentage of the matters that I have mediated as autilizing mediation is cost savings, the parties may not
volunteer for the Van Nuys Family Law Court. be using it effectively.
Those matters have involved custody/visitationAlthough I mentioned that I have successfully mediated
disputes, spousal and/or child support issues, andmatters in short time frames, it must be noted that
requests for contribution toward attorney's fees.  Ithose resolutions were merely on issues set for
have found mediating family matters so personallyhearing on a particular date and not on each and
rewarding that in or about May of 2008, I completed aevery issue involved in the case.  Furthermore, the
40-hour training in mediation skills.parties had spent time and money briefing those
I tend to agree with those judges and commissionersissues for the hearing and I was able to review and
that hold that mediation is not appropriate for everyanalyze the tile and the both sides' positions before
case.  The parties and/or their attorneys must have acommencing the mediation.
good faith desire to resolve their disputes in such a© 2009 Mark B. Baer, Esq.