Praising Your Child Can Make A Difference

Formerly titled "When Should An Artist NOT Sign HisI had already taught him to sign his artwork, because all
Work".Artists signed their work.
I was faced with this question some years ago.We had pictures of Darkwing Duck, and every
Allow me to back up for just a minute. Years ago, Icartoon super hero, pasted all over our refrigerator
bought one of Zig Ziglar's books on how to raisedoor. Then something happened. I particularly noticed
positive kids. I first bought this book because, like manyone picture he drew with a pencil (not a crayon)
fathers, I wanted to know how to raise and disciplinebefore he signed it. The picture was of " Pinocchio,"
my son when the time came. Little did I know that thisand he drew it while looking at the cover of one of his
book didn't deal so much with the actions of the son,movies. I instantly fell in love with it and didn't want him
but more with the actions of the parents! It wasn't longto ruin it by signing it. (Remember, his handwriting hadn't
before I started exercising certain techniques in thathad as much practice as his art ).
book, and noticed they were actually molding my sonSo, I asked him if I could have that picture. With a big
right before my eyes.smile on his face he saw that I really liked that one, so
My son was not into drugs, didn't stay out all night andhe gave it to me. I immediately placed it in a folder that
really never gave his mother and I any problems.I used for work.
OhÂ…did I mention that my son was only 5 years oldKyle knew that I carried that folder to work every day.
at the time? What you are about to read mightHe would often ask to see that picture and it would
surprise you, but I feel that it very well could inspirealways be within arm's reach of where I was sitting.
some of you as parents, not to mention some of yourOver the years, I would constantly be looking at that
children.picture when he was in the room. As a matter of fact,
Because my son was an only child, he learned toI recently decided to scan that picture and put it on the
pacify himself by either watching TV or doodling onInternet for even you to see. I never got around to
paper. We made sure he had all the favorite cartoonhaving it framed and matted -- I guess I must have
movies children liked to watch. It wasn't long beforeknown I'd be using it!
we noticed that our son would watch TV for only aWhy did I put it on the Internet? Because I still want him
short time before he would go find his toys, whichto know how much that picture means to me.
were the small characters in his movies. He wouldOne other thing I forgot to mention. He's now 18 years
place these toys in front of him with crayon and paperold. He's never let a day go by without drawing
close by, and continue to watch the movies whilesomething. He began drawing what I always wanted
slowly trying to draw the characters.him to draw, "pencil portraits" and back when he was
One of the techniques that Zig Ziglar mentioned in thisonly 14 years old.
book -- I'll have to be honest here, its the onlyOne of his first pencil portraits was during the
technique that really stood out in my mind; I can'tPresidential debate between Al Gore and George W.
remember the others, but I still have that book -- wasBush. Kyle came home from school with a brochure
to praise the child. But wait! It was to praise the child tohe got during class as they were discussing the
other adults in such a way that the child just happeneddebate. He sat down and drew a very good likeness
to be within hearing range. It's one thing to receiveof what would later become the President of the
praise yourself, but to overhear your parents braggingUnited States. You can see the drawing of George W.
on you to people on the phone or in the other room --Bush on Kyle's website....
it seems to have a far greater impact. I think we allMany parents have shared with us how they've
can relate to that, even as adults.showed their young children -- Kyle's website, to help
Back to the title of this little story. "When should anfurther inspire their own children's talents. Please feel
Artist NOT sign his work?" My answer is when he'sfree to drop Kyle a note in care of my email address :
only 7 years old, and his handwriting is larger than theand I'll see that he gets every email commenting on his
picture he just finished. See, as we continued to praiseartwork. We welcome all comments because, yes we
Kyle for his artwork, it wasn't long before he waswere able to raise such a positive kid and we still
calling himself an Artist, (he believed it with his wholecontinue to find ways to let him know it.
heart) because he overheard us call him that to others.