Tips for Single Dads

There is a preceived sacred bond between motherSo it is essential that you download some good
and child. While the latter can live without the fatherrecipes from the Net or thumb through a recipe book
without much of a problem, absence of mother in earlyand try to master the dishes on weekends.
childhood can pose tremendous problems for a kid.Also, it is a good idea to include lot of fruit and
No father can offer the tenderness, affection andvegetable salads in the menu. These do not require a
emotional care to a child like a mother can. This is howlot of preparation but are still full of vitamins and other
God has meant it to be. The genes of a baby andnutrients. Meal times are when you should enforce a
mother are hot-wired for each other. Neither can live inlittle discipline and tell the kids to carry their utensils to
peace without the other.the kitchen and clean up the table.
Still, there are divorce cases where fathers have to beLaundry should be done on Sunday every week.
perforce assigned child custody. There can be anyPutting clothes through a washing machine on
number of reasons for this, such as when a motherweekdays will add to your headache and you may
may be mentally instable, involved in drug abuse, maybecome tired or reach office late the following morning.
be incarcerated, may have abandoned the family for aYou should buy enough clothes and school uniforms of
new lover or she simply may be interested in going herthe children to last at least five days without washing.
own way with no strings attached.Kids have to go to school every morning. You as
Men and household chores have historically been totalsingle dad would have a major role to play in this daily
strangers. This is because since times immemorial,ritual. Try to get up an hour before the kids to take
there has been a division of labour between husbandcare of their lunch. Also, make it a point to have
and wife. The former has always gone out to workeverything ready the night before. Their school
and earn bread, while the latter has remained at homeuniforms should be ironed, their shoes polished and their
and tended to children and kitchen. In the modernbags ready beforehand.
world, this arrangement often goes topsy-turvy.Bringing up daughters can be a bit tricky for single
Women go out to work while men have to take carefathers. You have to respect their privacy but still have
of the children when their mom is not around.to be their confidante. It is better to take the help of a
When men get child custody after divorce, they get itfriend’s wife or some female relative in bringing
both ways – not only do they have to go to officeyour daughter up. You should take her out shopping
every day for work, they also have to manage theregularly and buy clothes of her choice as you
house and the children. They are forced to do thewon’t be able to judge yourself what clothes she
work of both the parents with no one to help them.should be wearing.
It is a shock for the kids too. For them it is a strangeAs a single father, you can never replace mothers.
feeling to look up to their dad for every big and smallEven trying to do so is futile. Kids can relate to you
need. It remains an uneasy arrangement for the firstonly as a father and male presence in their lives. The
few months. But time is a great teacher and gradually,place of a mother in the family can never be filled up
the kids as well as their father come to terms withby you. It is much better to try to be a good father and
single-fatherhood and begin to accept the situation as itgive your best to the welfare and healthy upbringing of
exists.your children. The bond formed between you and your
The biggest problem for dads is managing the kitchen.children in these early years can lay a foundation for a
Single fathers have to take some cooking lessons in avery strong relationship between all of you that will last
hurry. Kids need nutritious food as their body is growinga life-time.
up. They just cannot have fast food on a regular basis.