| Were you aware that a mediator can help you | | | | relevant sources. This is the time when real estate has |
| through your divorce as can a divorce attorney? | | | | to be assessed; retirement funds examined; debts |
| When my divorce happened, this wasn't an option, but | | | | tallied, etc. |
| in the last twenty five years, it's become much more | | | | During the second meeting, you work to clarify any |
| popular. As an alternative to court standardized | | | | issues that require resolution, and you mutually make a |
| divorce proceedings, I think it's worth examining. | | | | decision about the outcome. For example, you might |
| In mediation, both individuals have a voice that is clearly | | | | look at how the assets will be distributed, who gets |
| heard. A mediator can educate the divorcing couple | | | | custody and when, or how much child support or |
| about techniques for calmer communication. These | | | | alimony is agreeable. The participating parties are |
| techniques become useful on an ongoing basis as the | | | | taught both how to compromise, how to negotiate, and |
| kids are growing up. When the divorcing couple use | | | | how to honor the court systems of the state in which |
| the techniques taught via mediation, their child is | | | | they reside. |
| blessed, because inflamed emotions and blame | | | | The mediator then drafts an Agreement. You will have |
| subside and objectivity comes to the forefront. | | | | the opportunity to review the Agreement, revise it, |
| Agreements reached through the employment of a | | | | finalize it. It becomes legally binding in it's final format. If |
| Mediator have a higher compliance rate because both | | | | you use a mediator, there are no court appearances. |
| parents participated in the creation of the agreement. If | | | | Mediation is frequently less expensive than hiring an |
| you agreed upon something, why would you not honor | | | | attorney and is a common sense alternative to a court |
| your own agreement? Mediation that you've both | | | | divorce. |
| worked on is much easier to live with than having | | | | Mediators are trained to help emotionally explosive |
| some judge's decision land in your lap. | | | | couples. Mediators will not let an overly powerful |
| Mediation clarifies communication generally, because | | | | spouse exploit the less powerful one. The Mediator is |
| each individual gets time to speak. The mediator will | | | | neutral. He does not side with either party. The |
| not tolerate over lording. | | | | mediator does not provide advice for either side of the |
| During the first mediation session, each party gets to | | | | divorce table. You can bring an attorney with you to |
| lay his cards on the table and they both decide on the | | | | Mediator sessions. I think Mediation is a viable option if |
| agenda items for the second meeting. Then, each of | | | | you must get a divorce. |
| them gathers data for next meeting from all the | | | | |