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Sexual Harassment and Sexual Discrimination when Working Internationally

Since ancient times women have been viewed,accordance with company policy and governing
in many cultures, as men's inferiorslaws. It is important to realize, for
physically, morally, and intellectually.example, that an executive team based in the
Today, in western cultures, women enjoy morehome office in the United States is actually
freedom and equality than ever before inlegally responsible for the actions of their
history. Despite the gains made by women inemployees worldwide, including in
recent years, particularly in the U.S., manysubsidiaries  in  foreign  countries.
women worldwide still find that their access
to education, employment, healthcare andWorking in the international arena can be
political influence are limited because ofchallenging. Many foreign countries have no
their gender. These discrepancies continue tolaws or regulations concerning sexual
exist because many societies still maintainharassment, or they are not enforced, and as
centuries-old social and religious laws,a result employees in many countries do not
customs, and traditions that have createdunderstand the American viewpoint. As a
barriers to education, jobs, and healthcare,result, male managers in the U.S. who are
as well as deprive women of their politicalunfamiliar with more traditional societies
and civil rights.Sexual HarassmentSexualmay avoid sending female staff members to
harassment is usually defined as a form ofrepresent their companies to these cultures,
discrimination in which sexual advances orfearing that these businesswomen cannot be
requests for sexual favors constitute aeffective in male-oriented societies. This
condition of a person's employment orviewpoint, however, may be keeping these
advancement in the workplace. It frequentlyexecutives from using what is in fact their
occurs between a male and a female, oftenstrongest asset, since women's perceived
instigated by a male manager or other personattributes -- being good listeners,
in power. While many countries are startingmediators, and consensus builders -- are
to have laws against such discrimination, itwell-received in international business. Male
is often reported that the laws are notmanagers only need to become knowledgeable
enforced.about the situation in other countries and
what their responsibilities are in the event
Sexual harassment occurs in workplacesof sexual harassment. They can then send
worldwide, including the United States. Lawstheir female staff members with
that specifically prohibit sexual harassmentconfidence.U.S. courts (see offer some legal
have been enacted in Argentina, Australia,remedies and suggestions for handling
Canada, France, Germany, Israel, Mexico, thediscrimination and harassment situations:
Netherlands, the United Kingdom and the"The (U.S.) courts have established that
United States, but many other countries arecorporations that assign a U.S. citizen to a
still in the process of studying the problem.post in a foreign country must treat that
There are two types of sexual harassmentemployee as if he or she were in the U.S.,
defined by U.S. law: quid pro quo and hostileregardless of local customs and traditions."
environment. Quid pro quo means that anRecent Supreme Court cases suggest several
employee is asked to perform a sexual act inlegal/human resource strategies that can be
exchange for a job, promotion, or other perk.used to prevent gender discrimination. The
A "hostile environment" is described as onefirst is: "to educate and prepare employees
which contains situations, acts, or itemssent to work in different countries abroad.
that can inhibit the productivity of anShould a dispute arise, arbitration or
employee, such as sexually suggestivemediation is preferred over litigation. The
language, behavior, or pictures.Somebest overall strategy is to develop and
strategies (as discussed in more detailimplement a well-conceived company policy
below) for employees who experience sexualthat ensures gender equality" (Cava, A. &
harassment include confronting the individualMayer, D., 1993).Management ResponsibilityThe
by informing him or her of the intrusiveelimination of sexual harassment starts at
behavior and requesting that he or she stophome. If your company doesn't have a company
it, notifying management or, shouldpolicy on discrimination and sexual
management be the offender, notifying theharassment at home, there will be little to
personnel department or the Equal Employmentback you up if you find yourself facing such
Opportunity Commission (EEOC). (In the Unitedsituations in the international environment.
States, call toll free 800-669-EEOC or seeTop management must therefore take a
to find your local office.) The EEOC will beproactive role in eradicating it from the
able to provide you with written guidelinesworkplace. There are many good reasons for
for determining what constitutes sexualdoing so. Sexual harassment can reduce
harassment and how to deal with it.Sexualemployee productivity and morale, and
DiscriminationThe American businesswoman mayconsequently it can have a negative impact on
unwittingly and unavoidably be party toa company's bottom line, as well as cost
conversations and actions that discriminatefirms  a  great  deal  in  lawsuits.
against women. For example, in Asian
businesses it is natural to ask a femaleIt is the responsibility of the executive
employee to serve tea, and a woman may bestaff to eliminate sexual harassment. Top
subjected to innocent questions about hermanagement must instruct its staff that
age, marital status, and whether or not shesexual harassment is illegal and will not be
has children. In Korea and Japan, protocoltolerated.. Issuing sexual harassment
has men entering rooms and elevators ahead ofpolicies, scheduling open discussions,
women. In Europe, office talk tends to beexpressing disapproval, creating a path for
more flirtatious and sexual in nature,resolution and complaint, and respecting
sprinkled with many off-color jokes and puns.individual privacy should all be part of the
Derogatory statements about women in Germanytop management plan. A comfortable
are often expressed openly in the office, andenvironment with open, company-wide
reference to a woman's physique is notcommunication is key to alleviating any
uncommon in Italy and France. Other countriesinhibitions employees may have about
still view a woman who is alone as adiscussing their experiences.As a first step,
prostitute since otherwise her husband,a company needs a visible, comprehensive
boyfriend or family would accompany her.policy emphasizing the importance of
American women often view excessive flatteryappropriate behavior: harassment and social
by Latin Americans as derogatory because U.S.misconduct toward its employees will not be
office policies would not tolerate suchtolerated. This policy should also state the
comments.Some women report that suggestiveramifications of any violations. Hard copies
sexual comments are sometimes usedof the company policy should be distributed
(consciously or unconsciously) as negotiatingnot only internally but also to customers and
tools in an attempt to throw a woman off hersuppliers. A copy of the policy should be
guard. Women must be prepared for this andavailable to all employees and visibly posted
develop the ability to keep control and notin work and rest areas. The company should
show anger or other emotion. Some tacticshave training programs for its management
women have used successfully to respond tostaff  and  its employees on a regular basis.
such situations include: giving a polite
verbal reprimand to remind your counterpartsIf you are in management, you can play a key
that you are conducting a business session;role. Do not overlook or refuse to
suggesting a break while stating theacknowledge that problems can occur in other
negotiation has obviously gotten off track;countries, because this will only help
or ending the negotiation in its entirety toreinforce their acceptance. If one of your
show absolute intolerance andtraveling staff is harassed, it will
disapproval.Gender Issues in EuropeMost womeninterfere with the productivity of your
in Europe are still battling the glassbusiness dealings. Harassment also violates
ceiling even more than women in the U.S.U.S. law. It is frustrating for an individual
There are fewer women in upper management andwho has faced sexual harassment to work with
more hierarchical issues with which toor for staff who do not understand the
grapple. Furthermore, European women areseriousness of the offense, or travel with a
still expected to handle all responsibilitiesmanager who does not speak or act on behalf
relating to home and family. This interferesof employees.Individual ResponsibilityPrepare
with their ability to hold down a job unlessyourself for the possibility of encountering
they are wealthy enough to have hired help atsexual harassment when you travel abroad.
home. Shopping hours are still not convenientWhen you are visiting countries that are
for working women and day care is often notmale-dominated and still have little
available. Younger women do not have the roleawareness of women's rights, your actions may
models of older women in the business world,actually have a greater impact on foreign men
so they must often work harder to establishthan written policies. In these situations,
credibility and to break into the upper ranksmen won't expect women to assert themselves,
of business. Derogatory comments about womenand if you strongly voice your disapproval of
appear to be more accepted by the public. Forinappropriate behavior, these men will often
example, in England the derogatory termsback down. Also, most businessmen would not
"cow" and "bird" are widely used, even on TV,want to lose a business deal by offending
and in films, to refer to women. In Francesomeone.Most women report that while their
and Italy it is not unusual for males tobusiness days go smoothly, the after-hours
touch women inappropriately.Gender Issues insocializing that occurs in some countries can
AsiaAsian culture has traditionally placedbecome a challenge. It is still common, for
more value on male offspring and on the maleexample, for Asian men to go out drinking
roles of ruler, protector, cultivator, andafter work. While drinking, they feel more
breadwinner. The male is out in the world,comfortable about voicing their inner
while the female remains at home to managefeelings. If you are the lone woman in your
the household and raise the children. Asiangroup, you may become the target for
males have consequently been in a dominantquestions that would not be asked during
position over Asian women and have largelyworking hours. In Asia, drinking excuses what
controlled their means ofAmericans may consider appallingly
livelihood.Centuries ago male philosophers,inappropriate behavior. While the American
China's elite, developed precepts of behaviormay remain upset if he or she feels anything
-- notably passivity and obedience -- thatuntoward has occurred during an evening, the
women were expected, or forced, to follow.incident is generally ignored by the Asian
Women were subordinated to their fathers,participants the next day as they carry on
brothers, husbands, and even sons.with business as usual. In Latin America,
Historically, marriages in Asia were arrangedwomen are often the targets of flattering
not for love, but for family connections. Thecomments about their appearance by Latin
bride usually lived under the domination ofAmerican men, sometimes to the point that it
the husband's mother and frequently facedfeels intrusive to the women.Should you be
competition from secondary wives andsubjected to what you feel is sexual
concubines. Her husband was allowed toharassment, remain calm and professional.
repudiate his wife, especially if she did notThis attitude will have much more impact than
produce a male heir. If the husband died, theif you become upset or angry. In many cases
wife could not easily remarry. She had nomen may have been trying to incite you or
economic independence, was frequentlytest your resilience. In most cases you can
illiterate, and had no property rights.either respond with a calm statement of
Infanticide limited the number of femaledisapproval, or you can show your disapproval
children.Today, Asian countries continue toby remaining silent. If you are in a
be patriarchal societies with strongsituation that has become particularly
traditions. When a woman marries, sheunpleasant, you can always leave.If you are
generally joins her husband's family, and hertraveling overseas on business and have been
ties with her own family weaken. The coupleaccosted, you are still protected as an
either lives with the husband's family or, asemployee of an U.S. firm, and should take
is occurring more frequently, on its own. Ifaction in accordance with your firm's sexual
there is a divorce, the father often getsharassment policy. It is always best to
custody of the children. Divorce isreport the incident rather than being passive
considered shameful and is rarely discussed.and keeping it to yourself. This way, if the
Divorce rates, which used to be very low inperpetrator is an employee of your firm, he
East Asia, are growing however, as womencan be corrected or reprimanded, and if he is
become more economically independent.There isemployed by another firm, at least your
an old Chinese saying: "Women are the moonexecutives will be aware of the issue when
reflecting the sunlight," meaning womendeciding whether to enter further business
reflect the glow of men. Young, educated Eastdealings with that company.Be Prepared- If
Asian women increasingly reject this oldyou are single, avoid talking about your
saying. They emphasize their individuality,personal lifestyle or dating, as these
independence, personal responsibility, hardsubjects can lead to uncomfortable
work, and careers, even as they try toconversations. In particular, do not discuss
maintain their femininity. Yet the few recentyour marital situation if you are divorced or
studies of Asian women indicate that manyliving with someone.- If you feel that a
still feel inferior to men and worry aboutconversation is inappropriate, don't respond.
managing a career and a family. JobJust change the subject.- Avoid situations
discrimination is still practiced in Asia.where any unwanted intimacy may be initiated,
"Family connections" are very important insuch as dinners for two.- Be careful that
obtaining desirable jobs. Stereotyping womenyour actions cannot be interpreted as being
as the weaker, less capable sex stilleither aggressive or flirtatious.- If your
prevails.Gender Issues in Latin AmericaTheinternational hosts insist on opening doors
concept of "machismo" is important in Mexicofor you or holding your chair at the dining
and other Latin American countries, althoughtable, graciously allow them do so. Remember
American businesswomen will encounter morethey are trying to respond appropriately when
macho attitudes in Mexico than in any other aworking with women.- Avoid eating or drinking
part of Latin America. The word "macho" doesalone in strange restaurants, since you may
not carry a negative connotation in Mexico,be viewed as a pick-up target. Ask your hotel
as it does in the U.S. For a Mexican, theconcierge for restaurant
word "macho" implies strength, valor,recommendations.Responding to Uncomfortable
self-confidence and masculinity, which areQuestionsWhen you are asked a question you
all considered positive qualities. There isconsider uncomfortable or inappropriate, use
also an underlying assumption in the cultureshort, standard answers to discourage further
that men are supposed to be stronger, braver,questioning. For example, many women are
wiser and more sexually knowledgeable thanasked their marital status, their age, and,
women. Displays of machismo include: showingif married, about dual careers. While these
courage in a bullring, risk-taking, takingquestions may be unusual, they are often more
part in bar room confrontations, andcommonly asked in foreign countries as a form
displaying sexual prowess by bragging aboutof interest about you, a woman who may be
sexual conquests or by having a large family.very different than women in their own
To be macho also requires the repudiation ofcountry. You can answer these in a polite
all characteristics considered feminine, suchmanner while suggesting that the questions
as unselfishness, kindness, frankness andare not appropriate by giving answers such as
truthfulness."My career keeps me very busy," or "I am
younger than I look." Ignoring the question
The proof of a man's maleness in thisand changing the subject is a simple way of
culture is his ability to completely dominateredirecting the conversation. If the
his wife and his children and to have sexualquestions are more direct and aggressive and
relations with any woman he desires. A doublesexual in nature, be assertive and answer,
moral standard exists between the fidelity"This is not an appropriate question to ask,"
expectations placed upon males and females inor, if the questioner continues to be
Mexico and Latin America. A woman's primaryuncooperative, try to embarrass him by
obligation is to make a home and procreate;telling another group member about your
she is dedicated to a life of service and nodiscomfort. Silence can also be very
infidelity on her part is tolerated. However,effective.Strategies for responding to
men who maintain mistresses are within theiruncomfortable questions also include:- You
legal rights as long as they are discreetmay be asked seemingly intrusive questions
about their affairs. A man can frequentlyabout your marital status and whether or not
divorce his wife if she commits adultery, butyou have children. Prepare some stock answers
the wife can only divorce her husband if theor change the topic of conversation to one
act took place in their home.Macho men willthat is more comfortable for you.- You might
often express an air of superiority when itbe invited to a bar after dinner. Whether or
comes to dealing with American women innot you want to attend is your choice. It's
business. They may be overly polite andnot impolite to say no, giving jet lag or
attentive to a woman, but in a patronizingbusiness commitments such as faxes, e-mails,
way. Machismo may be expressed in terms ofor phone calls as an excuse.- If your host
canceled, forgotten, or ignored meetings, andexhibits inappropriate behavior, inform him
other frustrations and delays. Businesswomen,that you are uncomfortable and that you want
especially when traveling alone, shouldhim to stop.- f you are traveling
expect a high likelihood of unwelcome sexualwith a team, have other team members join you
advances. Examples of this include: overlyin expressing dissatisfaction with the
long eye contact, the pressing of legs undersituation. This will usually end the unwanted
the table, and an overemphasis on howbehavior, since to continue it will cause bad
appealing a woman looks. Most businesswomenfeelings.- If you are in a social setting
advise against entertaining a man alone.that is becoming uncomfortable, inform your
Instead, they suggest that a group behost that you are uncomfortable and would
arranged. They also emphasize that a womanlike to leave. Politely request that he call
should establish herself as a businesswomanyou a taxi. If he does not cooperate, ask the
even at her hotel, and dress conservativelyestablishment's staff to call one for
in business suits.Strategies for CopingIt isyou.- If no action is taken, get ready to
important for you, your team, and yourleave and state the reasons you are leaving.
managers to understand the strategies youThere is no reason to stay in a situation
should pursue if you find yourself in athat is uncomfortable for you.- An employee
compromising situation. Managers should bewho desires to leave while his or her
well-versed on their responsibilities incolleagues desire to stay should do so and
cases where women have been harassed, andnot feel badly about "breaking up the fun.
they should understand how to act in



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