| Copyright (c) 2008 Steven Magill | | | | a team-working together to make the decisions that |
| The first thing you should do when you decide to get | | | | are best for everybody and not putting them into the |
| divorced is to talk to a lawyer. A lawyer will be up to | | | | middle of a volatile situation. |
| speed on all of the current divorce laws in your state | | | | You can save money by using divorce mediation. |
| and can help you fill out your divorce paper work. | | | | Because both parties use the mediator, they can split |
| Some couples are determined to save money and not | | | | the cost between them, which makes the expense |
| use a lawyer; they are convinced that they can work | | | | much far more manageable. |
| things out amicably. The sad truth of the matter is that | | | | When using divorce mediation, the spouses are |
| no divorce is easy-no matter how amicable the split is. | | | | allowed to follow their own time schedule. They aren't |
| If you are convinced that you won't need separate | | | | required to set court dates or schedule lawyers. |
| lawyers to negotiate your divorce for you, you might | | | | Instead the divorce is processed one division at a time. |
| want to try divorce mediation. | | | | It is cooperative not antagonistic. |
| Divorce mediation still feels new but it is quickly | | | | When you use divorce mediation, the mediator |
| becoming accepted as a way to dissolve a marriage | | | | completes your paperwork for you. The mediator is |
| amicably. There are several different kinds of divorce | | | | also an attorney and this person can make sure that |
| mediation, but the main idea is that both spouses sit | | | | you are using the most current forms and that they |
| down with one lawyer who is the mediator and | | | | are filled out correctly. They can even file your divorce |
| together the three of them decide how everything | | | | papers for you and you are then free to represent |
| needs to be divided, who gets custody of the kids and | | | | yourself when your court date comes. |
| the lawyer makes sure that everything is done to the | | | | You get the same legal information with divorce |
| letter of the law and that the papers are filled out | | | | mediation that you would get if you and your spouse |
| correctly. | | | | each got your own lawyer. This way, however, there |
| Here are some of the major reasons you should try | | | | is no guesswork as to what your spouse's lawyer is |
| divorce mediation: | | | | persuading him/her to do. Working with a mediator |
| Mediation is much easier for your kids to process. | | | | keeps everybody on the same track and working |
| Divorce is hard enough on kids, but when they know | | | | together. It turns your divorce into a project, not a |
| that their parents are at odds with each other and | | | | confrontation. |
| might be behaving badly toward one another, the | | | | It is important that you end your marriage in the most |
| trauma for the children is far worse. Divorce mediation | | | | diplomatic way possible. Divorce mediation is a way to |
| shows your kids that you and their other parent are still | | | | make that happen. |